That's not a bad quality, but you would do well to remember that punctuality is important to YOU - automatically assuming that is should be a high priority for others, and that it is (or, at least from the tenor of your post, seems to be) the sole determinant of a person's worth or character, is actually quite narcissistic and self-centered! However, I extend empathy and understanding to those that are late, because, as I said in my original post, unless there were major consequences for me as a result of another's tardiness, I would only be judgmental out of sheer annoyance - and being judgmental is a much more undesirable trait than tardiness.Finally, let us actually look at the definition of narcissism, as you desire a "rationale" response: "The pursuit of gratification from vain or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes." This expression is elliptical for lately (i.e., recently) deceased. What happened 4 years ago to change that dynamic?I had an accident, which left me very beat up. In a way that stress of not wanting to be late became a cost of being early; a cost that I didn't really want to incur as time went on. But one member of the group simply could never show up on time.
You can be a perpetual child or lead a parasitic lifestyle more easily when you have no real responsibilities. But just as we hate to be late, another cohort hates to be When you ask someone why they are perpetually late, they will often inform you that the typical or assumed reasons do not necessarily explain their habit. Aside from situations where someone else's tardiness causes us a major problem, if the result is simply annoyance, maybe we actually need to get over ourselves, as well.You have no legitimate argument to offer, CP, so you revert to a specious and childish DARVO response. It use to be extremely rude to be early--don't know when that changed. If you have married a narcissistic bully who demands that you arrive to all events either 45 minutes early OR 45 minutes late, (both of which are just plain rude and domineering/ controlling and narcissistic)The point, again, is that being on time is thoughtful, polite, and respectful of the needs and feelings of others, and being chronically extremely late or chronically extremely early is just weird, even rude (if it's a formal dinner or party event in someone's home) and rather passive-aggressive or covertly hostile.
What I gain from that extra half an hour of meeting or event is never, ever worth the additional stress it would have cost me to try to make myself be on time.
Actually, if it is important that I be on time, MY friends will do everything they can to help me get places on time. Yawn.So you are being consistent, at least, with all the other narcissists who have presented the same tired argument.Narcissists are loathe to acknowledge that *everyone's* time is important and valuable to them: just exactly as important and valuable as your own time is to you. Another way is letting others know if you are being unavoidably detained so they can go ahead and eat or whatever, instead of becoming sick with worry wondering what happened to you. [Montreal Gazette]Janice Farrar-Titus, wife of the late cruise industry innovator Warren Titus, served as godmother for the 188-passenger vessel. I would say, "You can trust me, I won't let you down.
As if the universe revolves around them.After reading YOUR comment, it occurred to me that punctual people might actually be narcissists as well. You demonstrate that in accusing me of being a narcissist and a person who is perpetually late (I do not believe I demonstrated the former in my original comment, and certainly not the latter - I am quite punctual).
And it turns out late people are actually the best people ever.
If I'm 30 minutes late for a lunch, is my tardiness prevention you from eating or getting a drink? The result; however, seemed to be that I'd be more inclined to be late.The solution to actually fixing the habit, then, is not to think about ways to be on time but rather to think about how to make being early valuable.With this in mind, though, there's one more solution that can help, which is to find a way to reduce the perceived costs of being early.Come off it, this article just gives people permission to be rude.